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I’m not one to get pissed
off easily, and definitely not one to write about being pissed.
I try and make everything I write about as focused on the
positive as I can. Yes, I’m intense when it comes to
training and life in general, but intense doesn’t automatically
mean pissed or angry. All in all I am pretty laid back and
understanding.
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If someone wants to do something stupid,
so be it, it's their life to screw up. There just aren’t enough
hours in the day to let stuff get to you constantly. If I let everything
that I don’t agree with piss me off then I’d be in a perpetual
enraged state 24 hours a day and not get a thing of my own done
due to constantly being worried about what others are doing.
That said, being pissed at times is
natural; it happens, and should happen. If you're never pissed,
then much like hate and love, you aren’t living. Pissed goes
hand in hand with happiness; you have to have one to get the other,
to know what the other is. Or maybe your living in some kind of
emotionless bubble created by new age pharmaceuticals.
So, I’ve just for some reason
been thinking about being pissed of late. What does piss me off?
What makes me shake my head and say, what the hell are you thinking?
I started to compile a nice long list of things like goalless people,
vegans, midgets, horses, and…. Laughingly none of that really
pisses me off. I may not agree with some of those things in totality
( I’ll let you all figure out which ones those are) but that’s
OK, they don’t piss me off. In reality my list is pretty short.
I narrowed it down to the following four, and who knows, maybe these
will change...
#1 Above all, the thing that is going
to get me pissed is something that affects those I care about in
a negative way. I couldn't really care less what the hell you do
with your life. Again its your life to live and ruin. Go do whatever
the hell you want as long as it has no effect on those I care about
and choose to share my oxygen on this earth with, or myself. You
do something to disrupt them or me, then ya, I'll be pissed!
#2 This one really gets to me as well.
I can ignore it a lot but then you get those that just won't leave
it alone and won't shut up. People that bitch and moan about their
lack of “something", and then don’t do a damn thing
to fix it. Usually they are blaming their lack of something, or
the reason they have something they don’t desire on someone
else. I don’t care what you have or don't have be it money,
strength, a job. You have no one to blame but yourself. The only
thing you really have control of over in this life is you. If you
don’t have something or don’t like something you do have
or that is happening to you, ACT! Fix it! Don’t sit there on
your ass thinking your pissing and moaning about it is going to
fix it! Or more so, don't ask me to help you fix it if you don’t
want to show some initiative first to put your own lazy ass in action.
#3 I suppose this kind of goes hand
in hand or is part of the one above, but it's my list and I am going
to give it its own due attention. Spineless people. Weak willed
people who wont stand up for what they believe in. They have harsh
opinions until they are questioned on them, or made to back them
up and then they back down crawling away crying or will change their
tune. “I’m sorry, I’m sorry!” Bullshit. Quit
being a pussy and stand up for yourself. I don’t care if we
agree or disagree that happens and is always will. I may be perfect
but that doesn’t mean everyone is blessed enough to realize
it, and I can't blame them for that... LOL! Just please know your
opinions and stand up for them. Don’t fold at the first sign
of opposition no matter who it is. You hopefully took years to form
strong educated opinions, don’t fold in seconds. Oddly enough
these are usually the same people that seem to be the most pissed
all the time and the most to blab and waste our time about trying
to push their personal agenda on others. Yhea they piss me off.
#4 People that ask for advice, for my time, but they really deep
down don’t want my opinion. People that ask for help but what
they really want is me to tell them what they already believe is
right. They just want to be assured so they can feel all warm and
fuzzy in what they already believe is right.
Don’t waste my time. I am going
to tell you what I believe, and what I know works from real world
experience for the problem that you're asking about. If you don't
want that, then don't ask! And for damn sure don’t get pissed
at me for telling you what I believe. Your the one that asked. If
you know what you want me to tell you, save me the time and tell
me what you want to hear. I may just laughingly do it and get a
kick out of it even if its completely asinine, just out of respect
for you being so upfront and not wasting my time like so many others.
Better yet, if you want and believe
something you already now is right, then damn it, believe it! Put
it to action and make it happen; don’t look for reassurance.
You don’t and shouldn’t need reassurance from me or anyone.
If you do your questioning yourself and the actions you're about
to attempt, you’ve already lost. By asking for outside validation
you’ve already failed before you even started.
The mind is a powerful tool. So ask
me questions, I LOVE to help people. I even feel I have a lot to
share, but don’t waste my time if you don’t want to hear
what I have to say. You don't have to use it, but don’t reject
it as wrong because its not what your preconceived notion was that
you wanted to hear, or without ever personally trying it.
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In this I set out
to make a short list of the most prevalent things that come
to my mind that piss me off, and that’s what I came up
with. I think they are solid, and NO I’m not asking for
your permission, or reassurance to that fact. I am just laying
these out there as I think it’s healthy to do this from
time to time.
It’s much
the same as stepping back and evaluating any of your own opinions,
be it what pisses you off, training and nutrition, or general
life issues. Take those opinions and things you know to be
fact and prior to turning the scope of them on others, turn
the scope inward on yourself.
From time to time
look at yourself, who you are, and your actions from an outside
point of view to make sure you aren’t, yourself, doing
something that would turn you red mad or cause you to go against
what you believe is true or progressive.
Sometimes you just
might be - we all screw up. By checking yourself, you can
give yourself a smack and straighten yourself out before someone
else rightly has to. So what pisses you off? More importantly,
do you piss you off?
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About The Author
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Coach Phil Stevens is an accomplished
strength athlete with considerable experience in both powerlifting
and strongman competition. Phil is the 2007 APA World Champion
in the 242-pound class (total). He currently holds the APF
275-pound class raw National bench, squat, deadlift, and total
records. Phil’s marquis lift was his 700-pound raw deadlift,
performed on February 14, 2009 in Phoenix, Arizona.
Phil has been ranked in the “Top 10” in the deadlift Nationally across all powerlifting federations, also serves as the Arizona State Chair for the North American Highlander Association, as well as the founder of Lift For Hope, an annual strength-competition
with proceeds donated to Charity (www.Lift4Hope.org).
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